You may feel overwhelmed if your partner shares that she is unexpectedly pregnant. The shock of this news can lead to many what-ifs, including:
How can I support her during this time?
Where do I go for help?
How do we move forward?
Feeling concerned about your next steps is natural, but resources are available to help you navigate your emotions and support your partner.
Keep reading to learn what to do next.
Identify How You’re Feeling
You can’t help someone else without taking care of yourself first. It’s critical to take stock of your emotions, allow time to process them, and consider what support you need.
Talking to a trusted friend, family member, or counselor can provide a sounding board for you to discuss the pregnancy news and decide where to go from here. Without thinking about your reactions to the pregnancy, you run the risk of neglecting your own needs and being unable to support your partner properly.
If you need time to process the news, it’s crucial to let your partner know that you need space to explore your own feelings. Ultimately, this action will help you both in the long run.
Listen to Your Partner
Though you may have strong opinions about a potential pregnancy decision, it’s important to recognize that this is ultimately up to your partner. However, by being supportive and reminding her you’re there to offer support, you can play an essential role in the process.
Your partner likely needs someone who will listen to her without providing strong opinions or judgment. Saying things like, “I’m here for you. What do you want to talk about?” may seem simple, but they can make a world of difference and foster trust.
You may discuss the next steps, like confirming the pregnancy and weighing possible options. Offering to attend appointments and participate in those discussions shows that you’re active and engaged. Your partner doesn’t just need to hear about your support; she must feel it.
Take Advantage of Pregnancy Resources
Before making a decision, your partner can confirm her pregnancy with a pregnancy test at the Cherish Women’s Resource Centre. She also can receive a non-diagnostic ultrasound. This scan will provide information about her pregnancy and health so she can move forward.
Assessing her options is also a vital step. Our client support staff offer information on abortion, adoption, and parenting in a confidential, non-judgmental setting. You and your partner can discuss these options, ask questions, and more.
We know there may be many unknowns right now, but we’re here to address your unique needs and help you be the most supportive partner possible. Schedule a no-cost appointment today to learn more.
The Cherish Women’s Resource Centre does not provide or refer for abortions
